I hope you were encouraged by Part 1 (read here if you missed it) about sleepless nights and our great example of the Proverbs 31 woman! Read below about how to help keep patience with your little ones!
“This leads to the next thing I’ve discovered about being a mom… it’s really hard to keep a good attitude and have patience when you’re tired and its complete mayhem. When you get married you learn that you may not have been as “selfless” as you thought…and then you have kids. I have had a lot of growing pains in this area of attitude and patience over the past 3 years. It is so hard at time to have patience!!!! I mean, I can’t emphasize it enough. I won’t tell you all the ways I’ve failed in this area, but I will tell you what has helped me. It takes being filled with the Holy Spirit. I’m currently in a Bible Study on the Fruit of the Spirit by Beth Moore and have been so encouraged by it. She talks about how we can’t let our flesh dictate our attitude. Galatians 5:17 says “For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit and the Spirit was it contrary to the sinful nature. They are at conflict with each other.” The biggest reason for failure in daily struggles is trying to balance the Spirit and the flesh. But it just doesn’t work. I have to be filled with the Spirit so that my mood, emotion, impulses and urges is not of my flesh, but of the Spirit.
Romans 8:26 talks about how the Spirit helps us in our weakness…(or our attitude and patience).
One thing that really stood out to me in the study is when she talked about how the spirit intervenes in our weakness, not in our avoidance. As a mom it’s easy to not make being in the Word, or being in prayer, a priority. There’s always so much cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc to be doing. This was a hard balance for me after my first kid, even my second! And now that I have 3 kids, I have made the time almost daily, because I’m realizing I need His help more than ever. It takes a little while to get into a routine but I encourage you, friend, to make it happen. And I will say, a lot of my mom friends and I have talked about how we had to adjust. Would I love to sit outside for an hour ever morning with my cup of coffee and do my Bible Study with no interruption. Yes! Can that always happen? Absolutely not. Especially when they are so little and up throughout the night, or when you have multiple little ones who are so dependent on you. I found when I first became a mom I would try to wait until I had “the perfect” time where I could just sit for a good 30 mins to an hour and be in the Word. But sometimes that perfect time wouldn’t come, and it wouldn’t come again, and again. Then I realized I had to be creative. Some days, it means turning on worship music while cooking dinner to set your attitude straight. Some days, it can be praying for my kids as I’m folding each of their clothes. The point is, we need to be in tune with Him.
The longer I’ve been a mom there are areas I have become more efficient in, allowing me for more quality quiet time. But there are some seasons where we feel like we can barely stay afloat. So, even if it’s not my ideal, I’ve learned I have to be ok with that for this season of life, however, I need to make the most of every opportunity …or I lose it.
I just finished reading a book by Sally Clarkson called, “The Mission of Motherhood” and it spoke to me in so many ways. In one chapter titled “The Faithful Mother”, she says this
God designed mothers to partner with Him in His eternal work, and He has promised to reward our faith and our faithfulness…We are the real, in-the-flesh, tangible picture of God’s loving hands, strong arms of protection, and encouraging word of hope to our children…Each child longs for a heritage with which he can have pride; a home where he can see the faithfulness of God lived out every day; a family in which love is constant, forgiveness and grace hold everyone together, and faith and endurance conquer all obstacles. This is the kind of foundation upon which a child can begin to build the fortress for his own life… Each of us, as mothers, must continually endeavor to make the right choices so that our children receive such a foundation. (p. 232)
When I realize how important my role is as a mother, how much my attitude…even in the small things, affects my children’s future; how I am their example of what it means to live a Christ centered life, things get serious. I’m reminded that I have been entrusted with these little lives and need Him more than ever. So my friend, although there are sleepless nights, countless diapers, dishes piled as high as the Taj Mahal, messes beyond belief, and little time for rest, let’s remember together that motherhood is so much more than that. We are building our children’s foundation for their future in these early years!
This leads to something else I’ve become better at over the years of parenting…” **Please check back for the final part of the letter!**
Does this speak to you in any way? Do you have any questions?!